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Wednesday, May 2, 2012
I am so glad I went to the Workplace Bullying Institute's training.
Dear Readers,
This is a continuation of my story of
having been a target of workplace bullying. Notice the holding of me accountable. The ganging up. The
pleasure the bully supporter took at "the dinner table:" the principal's conference table. I was to have
been the meal.
I once asked why I was not invited to a breakfast honoring counselors.
I’d always, at the two other schools at which I’d worked, been asked if I wanted to go; that at the least.
At this school, I was not included.
The other two counselors made plans to go.
I found out. I was baffled. My
“how come I wasn’t included” question led to the previously written about “get things out on the table”
meeting.
That meeting led the very
next day to a meeting with the principal, the assistant principal and the two other counselors. It was evident that much discussion about me had taken place. Tsk, tsk; I had
been a bad girl. I'd asked a question.
He,
the principal, sat at the head of the table. They-the bully supporter and the bystanders-- sat on
the other side. I sat alone. Just like bullied children. I sat alooooone......
My “inflexibility” was addressed at the meeting; my issue with not being invited. My not being
a team player. Again. It appeared we were to get the same things out—this time
on a different table, the principal’s conference table.
Oh heart, pounding heart! I love you!
You do not lead me to fear. You, pounding heart, take me to a place of steely resolve.
"You will NOT treat me this way!" you scream when I am being ganged up on; picked on; held accountable for their
ugly and awful acts.
Thank you, dear heart. At least I have you.
They have each other and their cold and dead hearts.
I took control of that meeting. I’d already suffered enough at the hands of his “team.”
I stated that issue was “over and done” for me. I asked each of the women facing me
individually, articulately and directly, if it was done for them as well. I also stated that if that meeting
was to be rehashed that I would have union representation present. I told him I would talk about our future
efforts—only.
Bullying
works that way. My bullies—two really—the principal and his counselor friend—were ready
to attack. The other two--the bystanders--were paralyzed with fear.
God save them.
6:42 pm edt
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Click here for my district's bullying and harassment policy. You will see I have made comments....
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